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Male Performer Chat: BANNING
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gofish
8/11/18 @ 3:33pm
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Just got hit with a ban after making a cheeking comment in a performer's room. More of a joke and nothing all that exciting.
Have to say some performers take things so very serious which is strange with they are the ones with a toy up their ass. Is it any wonder that I believe some members are getting turned off by this site. Not all that worried about it though.
Tot all those performers out there think first before you hit that ban button. Not going to name the performer even though he is pretty popular and doubt he would even check out the forum page.
Would be awesome if some other members would talk about any ban experience they might have had.
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Have to say some performers take things so very serious which is strange with they are the ones with a toy up their ass. Is it any wonder that I believe some members are getting turned off by this site. Not all that worried about it though.
Tot all those performers out there think first before you hit that ban button. Not going to name the performer even though he is pretty popular and doubt he would even check out the forum page.
Would be awesome if some other members would talk about any ban experience they might have had.
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gofish
8/11/18 @ 4:41pm
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VsCynthia first thank you for your response.
Just don't get why the performer was so quick with the ban ....no warning...no whisper from him. No matter there are a few performers on the site who actually enjoy having a member actually talking in the chat room.
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VsCynthia first thank you for your response.
Just don't get why the performer was so quick with the ban ....no warning...no whisper from him. No matter there are a few performers on the site who actually enjoy having a member actually talking in the chat room.
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Just got hit with a ban after making a cheeking comment in a performer's room. More of a joke and nothing all that exciting.
Gofish, I find that some are very sensitive when they don't have a mastery of English and all our idioms and double entendres are taken literally. Perhaps, write to the said performer? Even my favourites in the past got red hot at something I said while in the UK/Australia/USA, it would have emitted a laughter. Reach out and see what happened. I work with a lot of French and Spanish people and even though I have some high school mastery of both languages, when they start to speak loudly and laugh amongst themselves, I get a bit paranoid and hot under the collar when I don't understand. Hope you can mend this bridge!
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Gofish, I find that some are very sensitive when they don't have a mastery of English and all our idioms and double entendres are taken literally. Perhaps, write to the said performer? Even my favourites in the past got red hot at something I said while in the UK/Australia/USA, it would have emitted a laughter. Reach out and see what happened. I work with a lot of French and Spanish people and even though I have some high school mastery of both languages, when they start to speak loudly and laugh amongst themselves, I get a bit paranoid and hot under the collar when I don't understand. Hope you can mend this bridge!
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gofish
8/11/18 @ 7:12pm
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Gofish, I find that some are very sensitive when they don't have a mastery of English and all our idioms and double entendres are taken literally. Perhaps, write to the said performer? Even my favourites in the past got red hot at something I said while in the UK/Australia/USA, it would have emitted a laughter. Reach out and see what happened. I work with a lot of French and Spanish people and even though I have some high school mastery of both languages, when they start to speak loudly and laugh amongst themselves, I get a bit paranoid and hot under the collar when I don't understand. Hope you can mend this bridge!
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TravisCarlton first thank you for your response. Had the performer been one of which you speak I would be in total agreement. However in this case the performer lives in the USA,has a very good understanding of English and knows that I am something of a joker in a teasing way. Like I said I will not mention his name as I have no ill will against him. Unlike many in chat rooms these days I tend to talk and sometimes in a cheeky way, but at no time have I ever shown a performer any form of disrespect.
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Well I really hope the rest of your experience goes well for you. My apologies if I spoke out of line.
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gofish
8/11/18 @ 7:48pm
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Well I really hope the rest of your experience goes well for you. My apologies if I spoke out of line.
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TravisCarlton nothing to apologize for. Your comment was well placed and much appreciated. Been on the site long enough not to let a mere ban really bother me. Hope you have a great experience on the site.
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TravisCarlton nothing to apologize for. Your comment was well placed and much appreciated. Been on the site long enough not to let a mere ban really bother me. Hope you have a great experience on the site.
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Would ejection from room fall under same category as ban? And how long do bans last, if any?
I've seen banning for:
* Entering a room and admitting to not have credits to spend
* Asking too many "random" questions
* Not chatting/Silence (why?)
* Arguing with other/favorite users
* Just because...(?)
I don't think too much of bans the few times I've been hit with them. If someone strongly feels like they don't want me in their room, that's fair and their call. I wouldn't want to be in a room where I'm not welcomed either.
Just keep it moving forward and stay in your lane
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I've seen banning for:
* Entering a room and admitting to not have credits to spend
* Asking too many "random" questions
* Not chatting/Silence (why?)
* Arguing with other/favorite users
* Just because...(?)
I don't think too much of bans the few times I've been hit with them. If someone strongly feels like they don't want me in their room, that's fair and their call. I wouldn't want to be in a room where I'm not welcomed either.
Just keep it moving forward and stay in your lane
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gofish
8/12/18 @ 2:49am
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Would ejection from room fall under same category as ban? And how long do bans last, if any?
I've seen banning for:
* Entering a room and admitting to not have credits to spend
* Asking too many "random" questions
* Not chatting/Silence (why?)
* Arguing with other/favorite users
* Just because...(?)
I don't think too much of bans the few times I've been hit with them. If someone strongly feels like they don't want me in their room, that's fair and their call. I wouldn't want to be in a room where I'm not welcomed either.
Just keep it moving forward and stay in your lane
Agree with much of what you say, but performers should realize that word just might get round as to how eager they are to hit that ban button. Pretty sure the site will take note if the bans are excessive.
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I've seen banning for:
* Entering a room and admitting to not have credits to spend
* Asking too many "random" questions
* Not chatting/Silence (why?)
* Arguing with other/favorite users
* Just because...(?)
I don't think too much of bans the few times I've been hit with them. If someone strongly feels like they don't want me in their room, that's fair and their call. I wouldn't want to be in a room where I'm not welcomed either.
Just keep it moving forward and stay in your lane
Agree with much of what you say, but performers should realize that word just might get round as to how eager they are to hit that ban button. Pretty sure the site will take note if the bans are excessive.
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I have only been kicked out a room once...I was talking to model about going private and he insisted that I give him his tip for a good show BEFORE we had gone private. When I declined, he kicked me out of his room.
I have been in rooms where the model did not kick-out a member that was so abusive to the model that it offended me.
I believe that the "ban button" should be an option for the models; but, it should be an option that is used sparingly, and only with justification. If its' use is justified, then some penalty should be levied against the member. If used without justification, then the model should be penalized. Quote
I have been in rooms where the model did not kick-out a member that was so abusive to the model that it offended me.
I believe that the "ban button" should be an option for the models; but, it should be an option that is used sparingly, and only with justification. If its' use is justified, then some penalty should be levied against the member. If used without justification, then the model should be penalized. Quote
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gofish
8/12/18 @ 5:36pm
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I have only been kicked out a room once...I was talking to model about going private and he insisted that I give him his tip for a good show BEFORE we had gone private. When I declined, he kicked me out of his room.
I have been in rooms where the model did not kick-out a member that was so abusive to the model that it offended me.
I believe that the "ban button" should be an option for the models; but, it should be an option that is used sparingly, and only with justification. If its' use is justified, then some penalty should be levied against the member. If used without justification, then the model should be penalized.
Foreplay I think the site takes note of performers who abuse that ban button just as long as there is no impact on the revenue flow. Performer like that once I doubt will last long on the site unless they have enough members willing to be abused.
As for a member abusing a performer and the performer not hitting that ban button it might be out of fear of the site dumping them. In a case like that I think it is up to site members to take a stand and basically tell the abusing viewer to BACK OFF. No performer or for that matter a member should be subjected to any abuse on the site. Respect should always be key.
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I have been in rooms where the model did not kick-out a member that was so abusive to the model that it offended me.
I believe that the "ban button" should be an option for the models; but, it should be an option that is used sparingly, and only with justification. If its' use is justified, then some penalty should be levied against the member. If used without justification, then the model should be penalized.
Foreplay I think the site takes note of performers who abuse that ban button just as long as there is no impact on the revenue flow. Performer like that once I doubt will last long on the site unless they have enough members willing to be abused.
As for a member abusing a performer and the performer not hitting that ban button it might be out of fear of the site dumping them. In a case like that I think it is up to site members to take a stand and basically tell the abusing viewer to BACK OFF. No performer or for that matter a member should be subjected to any abuse on the site. Respect should always be key.
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Foreplay I think the site takes note of performers who abuse that ban button just as long as there is no impact on the revenue flow. Performer like that once I doubt will last long on the site unless they have enough members willing to be abused.As for a member abusing a performer and the performer not hitting that ban button it might be out of fear of the site dumping them. In a case like that I think it is up to site members to take a stand and basically tell the abusing viewer to BACK OFF. No performer or for that matter a member should be subjected to any abuse on the site. Respect should always be key.
The performer that banned me is no longer a model. In the case of the models that I have seen being abused(yes it has happened more than once with different models), my tendency is to take the model private to give them a reprieve from the abuse. It doesn't penalize the abusive member, but it does end the situation-at least temporarily. Unfortunately, I cannot lodge a complaint with F4F when a model is being abused by another member. I have tried, but was told that the model must lodge the complaint.
As for a member abusing a performer and the performer not hitting that ban button it might be out of fear of the site dumping them. In a case like that I think it is up to site members to take a stand and basically tell the abusing viewer to BACK OFF. No performer or for that matter a member should be subjected to any abuse on the site. Respect should always be key.
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The performer that banned me is no longer a model. In the case of the models that I have seen being abused(yes it has happened more than once with different models), my tendency is to take the model private to give them a reprieve from the abuse. It doesn't penalize the abusive member, but it does end the situation-at least temporarily. Unfortunately, I cannot lodge a complaint with F4F when a model is being abused by another member. I have tried, but was told that the model must lodge the complaint.
As for a member abusing a performer and the performer not hitting that ban button it might be out of fear of the site dumping them. In a case like that I think it is up to site members to take a stand and basically tell the abusing viewer to BACK OFF. No performer or for that matter a member should be subjected to any abuse on the site. Respect should always be key.
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gofish
8/12/18 @ 7:31pm
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The performer that banned me is no longer a model. In the case of the models that I have seen being abused(yes it has happened more than once with different models), my tendency is to take the model private to give them a reprieve from the abuse. It doesn't penalize the abusive member, but it does end the situation-at least temporarily. Unfortunately, I cannot lodge a complaint with F4F when a model is being abused by another member. I have tried, but was told that the model must lodge the complaint.
Foreplay the mere fact that you took the time to contact the site is a positive move in the right direction. At so point thew site might take the time to check the situation out. By the way I do believe a performer can ask a moderator to enter the room to address the problem.
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I was kicked out of a room a few years ago by a model who took offense that I did not talk to him. His native tongue is not English, and a lot of what I might have said wouldn't have been comprehended. He just liked to kick people out. At the same time he was on another, competing site and had a nasty habit of banning people who talked too much, but watching in silence was OK there. Go figure. One just moves on and learns whom not to tip.
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Foreplay the mere fact that you took the time to contact the site is a positive move in the right direction. At so point thew site might take the time to check the situation out. By the way I do believe a performer can ask a moderator to enter the room to address the problem.
When I spoke with F4F, they said that the models all have a button they can press for assistance if the situation gets out of hand. I am wondering how that is defined for the models. An administrator's definition of out of hand might be much different than the way a model defines it. Or, perhaps the studios either don't tell their models about this "button", or discourage the models from using it.
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You went into a model's room, made a smart ass comment and he kicked you - and now you come in here expecting a pity me party. Puhlease 
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My situation just a bit different...
Entered a model's room one time. He apparently was having an issue with another member(s). I had just entered and actually said hello to him, and next thing I knew, was kicked out of the room. I tried going back in, but could not. So I wrote a negative review stating these facts as they had occurred.
Several days later, I received an email from him, he was upset about the negative review. I replied to him and we started a conversation via email. He apologised for kicking me out of the room, admitted he had been hasty in doing so. We actually became friendly due to this experience, and I had several privates with him...with a mutually satisfying conclusion
Sadly, he has not been on here for quite a while.
If one takes the time to perhaps talk with the performer/model, a similar conclusion would be the result. Quote
Entered a model's room one time. He apparently was having an issue with another member(s). I had just entered and actually said hello to him, and next thing I knew, was kicked out of the room. I tried going back in, but could not. So I wrote a negative review stating these facts as they had occurred.
Several days later, I received an email from him, he was upset about the negative review. I replied to him and we started a conversation via email. He apologised for kicking me out of the room, admitted he had been hasty in doing so. We actually became friendly due to this experience, and I had several privates with him...with a mutually satisfying conclusion
Sadly, he has not been on here for quite a while. If one takes the time to perhaps talk with the performer/model, a similar conclusion would be the result. Quote
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gofish
8/13/18 @ 4:07pm
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You went into a model's room, made a smart ass comment and he kicked you - and now you come in here expecting a pity me party. Puhlease
gayslave4u ...looks like you have lost your quick wit. Thought you would have gone with a comment like "about time for that fish to get the boot" or "the room just got clean of Fish"
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gayslave4u ...looks like you have lost your quick wit. Thought you would have gone with a comment like "about time for that fish to get the boot" or "the room just got clean of Fish"
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gayslave4u ...looks like you have lost your quick wit. Thought you would have gone with a comment like "about time for that fish to get the boot" or "the room just got clean of Fish"
Fish, you're a step behind too. It should have been "about time for that fish to get the HOOK!" Just trying to help when needed.
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