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Created by: kfinches

5/3/16 @ 11:04pm (EST) |UTC - 5:00
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I'm convinced to continue to blend in and share my gender with only a few trusted straight or declared bi performers. I think my initial experience of negative responses to a straight female being in the room were typical, and I don't want to cause problems to performers I care about. Like someone said; it's the internet! Thanks again BurningDesire4U! :thumbsup

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Created by: burningdesire4u

5/3/16 @ 11:49pm (EST) |UTC - 5:00
Location: Spain, Memories of Denmark

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i will answer you with this. as a straight male on this site i have come to grips with the reality that 99% of clientele on the males side are men. therefore, it is very unlikely that all 500 random names that pop up (most basic) are actual females, and not males that ddid their reesearch and read your profile to see that you are straight. i think most think you will do a free show for them in the open room if they make you believe they are the gender you're attracted to. while not true, you gotta give them an A for effort. i know your question was geared more towards the gay men, but at the same time the confusion may stem from the fact that it is online, and we dont see you in the open room. 9 times out of 10 its fantasy being said and not fact. welcome to the internet ;)

The cases I admitted to my gender right away were few. Most likely, I visit someone for months to make sure that the chemistry is right and some trust has built up.
After I told my first favorite on here, I had some encouragement to be more open about myself and I visited a couple of rooms declaring in the first conversation with performers (to them, not to the room), I was a woman.

Happened that I visited you in that phase, too. I know from that day very well your opinion since we discussed a while on this matter.
I accept that it is hard to trust someone on here. I hope you understand that I don't visit this site to try to convince people about who I am but look for those who can accept me no matter what I tell them about myself. Thanks to c2c, this distrust can be balanced out, but when it is there from the first moment ... it just sucks.

With this in mind, I found that I made my best experiences with bi-sexual men, because they seem more open to any type of visitors.

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Created by: burningdesire4u

5/4/16 @ 12:00am (EST) |UTC - 5:00
Location: Spain, Memories of Denmark

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Hi BurningDesier4u
The vast majority of members(and, from what I have been told, models) don't even read the Male Performer Chat forum. So pls allow me to advise you to not generalize from any kind and accepting words you have read here. There are some sweet guys who write on this forum but there are probably a lot of members who may not be as cool with a str8 women in a chat room. So continue your practice of being very selective in revealing your sexuality to other members. Just my :twocents

I can't continue what I haven't started yet. This thread has the aim to find out if I could.
Your comment, the fact that my #1 is actually a gay men, his concerns about his reputation etc. ... makes it unlikely I ever will.
Thanks.

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Created by: gofish

5/4/16 @ 3:28pm (EST) |UTC - 5:00
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BurningDesire4U first of all thanks for the posting.
I sort of think most members on the site don't have a problem with a woman being in the chat room. However if the performer ignores other members in the room over that woman then there could be a problem. Not with you, but the fact that the performer is not being a good host.
Yes there are a few things that are said in chat rooms that could make one feel uncomfortable, but heck you just move on and ignore them.
Most are here to have a good time and some fun, but not at the expense of others.
Hey it would be great to see you in a room, and would welcome your company in the chat.

:thumbsup

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Created by: chrisdk

5/4/16 @ 3:38pm (EST) |UTC - 5:00
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well said gofish

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Created by: burningdesire4u

5/4/16 @ 4:12pm (EST) |UTC - 5:00
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Hey it would be great to see you in a room, and would welcome your company in the chat.

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Thank you for your fishy comment :winkwink

. It wouldn't be the first time we'd tackle a guy together ...

and that's my main problem, I know a bunch of great members on here and a lot of you know me already, just not as a lady.
I don't wanna feel I have to hide this. But in the end, maybe it is better?

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Created by: gofish

5/4/16 @ 5:32pm (EST) |UTC - 5:00
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Thank you for your fishy comment :winkwink

. It wouldn't be the first time we'd tackle a guy together ...

and that's my main problem, I know a bunch of great members on here and a lot of you know me already, just not as a lady.
I don't wanna feel I have to hide this. But in the end, maybe it is better?

Hey I get what you mean. A few members do take a negative approach with a female in the room or even posting comments on the male forum. Somewhat sad when it is all about having a good time

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Created by: Ruebee

5/5/16 @ 6:50am (EST) |UTC - 5:00

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Very Odd to hear this and never hear this before but i have only working cam for a year. I would say its a job and give the person what they want, they are paying for it. For me i just try to give that best show i can to everyone but dam it i was doing a show with a female and they turned on the came i would probably enjoy it as much as them

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Created by: chrisdk

5/5/16 @ 7:08am (EST) |UTC - 5:00
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Careful here, Ruebee. One reason for me personally to NOT liking cam2cam is performers thinking they would get a show to see and enjoy, too.

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Created by: stillaround

5/5/16 @ 2:58pm (EST) |UTC - 5:00
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Careful here, Ruebee. One reason for me personally to NOT liking cam2cam is performers thinking they would get a show to see and enjoy, too.

No disrespect to the right of folks to express an opinion, but I thought that the above quote would be a hot button for models-male, female, bi and trans. Like when Amamda and Zac would write, "save my seat, while I get the popcorn" in anticipation of opinions flying back and forth. Things have changed so much here since I started visiting in 2012. Just my
:twocents

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Created by: chrisdk

5/6/16 @ 12:58am (EST) |UTC - 5:00
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*sighs* gofish was curious about this topic a little while back
http://www.flirt4free.com/forums/threads.php?forum_id=5&thread_id=22799&num_posts=25
already there I voiced this opinion. I tried c2c, most of the times I hated the result. That's all.
If technical quality would be overall better, maybe.

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Created by: stillaround

5/6/16 @ 2:28am (EST) |UTC - 5:00
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Careful here, Ruebee. One reason for me personally to NOT liking cam2cam is performers thinking they would get a show to see and enjoy, too.

Many members do not choose c2c for difference reasons. I don't care if you don't like it. Somehow I read your remarks to be in reference to a performer enjoying a c2c because he or she finds the member attractive. Please excuse me for misunderstanding and thanks so much for taking the time to clarify.

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Created by: r0ck0

5/9/16 @ 12:23pm (EST) |UTC - 5:00
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Created by: burningdesire4u

5/9/16 @ 1:11pm (EST) |UTC - 5:00
Location: Spain, Memories of Denmark

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Are you sure they are women or fake women.? As I have seen in other site the use feminine nicks to make the male models arouse and show their tools for free. I believe that issue is here. I don't think women visit a GAY Site. When the model asks for PRIVATE C2C they always refused and get the excuse , MY CAMERA DOESNT WORK. This is very suspicious to me.

I agree that is a thing, which is part of my trouble because it is creating a certain distrust.

I had cam2cam with several peformers on this site, some of them have been working here for years, and they could confirm to you that there are "real" women visiting this site. Private is where the magic happens

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Created by: gofish

5/9/16 @ 1:26pm (EST) |UTC - 5:00
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I agree that is a thing, which is part of my trouble because it is creating a certain distrust.

I had cam2cam with several peformers on this site, some of them have been working here for years, and they could confirm to you that there are "real" women visiting this site. Private is where the magic happens

, no need for me to watch something I find "too gay" for my taste in free or party chat.

However, I am concerned about the opposite situation.
I don't tell anyone in chat (performers only privately and after some time of aquaintance) that I am a woman and I refuse c2c with male performers who don't know ... they would get quite an unpleasant surprise.
My current #1 favorite is gay and he has no problem with me being in his room, only that he asks me to not tell anyone else in the room.
We had c2c only once to chat and get to know each other, because it is important to me that performers I visit for a longer time feel comfortable with me and constantly lying to them would make ME feel uncomfortable.

It is members who don't know, my "best flirt friends" think I am a bottom gay AND THAT is what gets at me at times and makes me sad.

BurningDesire4U first of all I am very glad you posted this topic. You sound like a real fun person who basically any performer should enjoy having in their room. Male..female geez for some of us it really makes no difference which is why I am happy that through this forum you sort of reveal something about yourself. Think it would be a real HOOT to actually bump into you in one of the performers rooms.
I totally understand where you are coming from with much of what you say merely because I see the flow of chat in rooms, and sort of have to laugh when the topic of bottom or top comes up ....seems either there are so many tops or bottoms ya don't know who is doing what HA HA HA.
Sorry that some on the site make you feel sad ....heck sort of makes me feel sad with the way the site is changing.
Well think I have said enough for now ....just my fishy :twocents

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Created by: burningdesire4u

5/9/16 @ 4:54pm (EST) |UTC - 5:00
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Thank you, gofish, this means a lot to me. :thumbsup

What do we have this forum for if not creating a better understanding between members and performers beyond the quick visit to a random room?

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Created by: gofish

5/9/16 @ 5:27pm (EST) |UTC - 5:00
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Thank you, gofish, this means a lot to me. :thumbsup

What do we have this forum for if not creating a better understanding between members and performers beyond the quick visit to a random room?

BurningDesire4U one thing is for sure, and that is that the members and performers who take the time to respond on this forum are really the ones who are looking to make the site an enjoyable experience. Those viewers who take offense to this and that I think rarely read these forums because they are too busy cause unnecessary trouble in the chat rooms :orglaugh

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Created by: ronnie-uk

5/9/16 @ 9:35pm (EST) |UTC - 5:00
Location: London, UK
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It actually could be very interesting, to compare what a straight female likes in a man versus what a gay male likes in a man. I'm sure there's going to be some male attributes that both can enjoy :winkwink

, but also perhaps a woman can give us a different perspective on what she appreciates in a man, and hopefully she/you can also appreciate what some of us appreciate in a man.

I said earlier that this was a great topic, and I particularly liked this question posed by midnightvoiceco (at post #6).

It would be fascinating to know what you ladies like to see on this sexy webcam site: handsome faces, muscles, big cocks, cum shots, cute butts, hairy legs ... or something different.

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Created by: burningdesire4u

5/10/16 @ 1:03am (EST) |UTC - 5:00
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, but also perhaps a woman can give us a different perspective on what she appreciates in a man, and hopefully she/you can also appreciate what some of us appreciate in a man.
It would be fascinating to know what you ladies like to see on this sexy webcam site: handsome faces, muscles, big cocks, cum shots, cute butts, hairy legs ... or something different.
No pressure, lol. I am not even sure, if my likes would be that representative ... or interestingly different compared to what you guys look for. Also I think, it'd be easier to point to what I definitely don't like.

Thinking about this for a bit, I'd say, one of the great aspects on this site is that I can actually interact with performers and ask them to do shows that I enjoy to watch ... something I can't say about usual porn a lot. Therefore I look out for guys who can be my buddies in open chat and are insanely hot in private shows :angel

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... and yes, a cute tushy on a guy is to die for

. (there you go myelmo :thumbsup

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Created by: Julian English

5/13/16 @ 3:56pm (EST) |UTC - 5:00

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I have been visiting this site for quite some time now.
Still I find it difficult to talk to a new performer because I never know what reaction I get when I am upfront saying I am a str8 woman.
Both str8 and gay men have been pretty nasty about that in the past, only few are cool with it and lots change their attitude in private once they know - which I find most regrettable.

Performers who have become important to me in the past know about this, but even they prefer me to not be "openly female" in their rooms in order to not disturb other members.
So I keep lying or well at least not mentioning it.
But I have also grown fond of other members ... people who share their gay fantasies with me and I wish I had the guts to tell them who I really am without having to fear their sudden hatred.

Therefore, I would love to know your opinion, members and performers alike:
> Str8 women visiting flirt as members ... is that so awkward for you?
>>> Do you as performer feel you cannot have shows with women? That you have to act differently from who you are?
>>> Do you as members think you could not tolerate a woman in a well run room, a group or party chat, share fantasies and excitement?
> Should I just shut up and go back into hiding? Because I am good at that. I am a supergirl, I put on my glasses and you'll think I am Clark Kent

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L.P. was demanding more diversity and tolerance recently. Let's see about that now.

*** I've got a BurningDesire4U, baby [Lana del Rey :thumbsup

] ***

I think it's cool. I always assumed most female members were actually dudes catfishing.

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