Hey all. Bit of a random one and i hope it makes some form of sense.

So I've been getting this guy come into my room, ( he's come come a reg now ) in his 50's just starting to act on his bisexual side, he's had the first sexual experience with a guy.... YAY..... so now comes the strange parts. when ever he's in the room now he tends to lower the mood and starts to have really heavy and deep conversations.

the first one was about me asking when i was last with a woman do i want off spring some day, every guy should have off spring with a woman as its the natural way, at what age will i have off spring , think he's trying to convert me back to the other side, didn't really pay attention to my answers just went on a mini rant about it and same sex couples cant do a good job at being parents... which is crap as i know same sex parents who do a dam good job.

the second which again i didn't even get a word in was going on about his first sexual experience with a guy.... how good it was to finally try it...BUT then the massive rant came about how sick he felt afterwards about doing it with another guy, how it won't be happing again, how sick same sex is, and how we shouldn't be allowed to do it etc.... then tipped me 20 creds and thanked me for my time. Another time was ( about the same subject ) that he was thinking of ending it all, he couldn't cope with the thought of it....... WHAT ON EARTH DO I SAY TO THAT????

He was whispering which annoys me as i like open chat unless its about going priv, he keeps coming back ranting about random things, he started off being a nice guy and I'm sure he is but what am i meant to do about this??
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You have a few options.
1. Politely shut him down. If you wish to be discreet, whisper to him that you are uncomfortable with the topic and ask him to please stop. If you'd rather say it out loud, you could just say that it's not a really a topic to discuss openly and change the subject.

2. If politely shutting him down doesn't work, or he just doesn't get the hint, you can try silencing him for 5 minutes. He'll be in the room, but no one else will be able to read what he's typing. He might get tired of not receiving any response and stop, and when he can talk again will avoid returning to that subject.

3. If silencing doesn't work, boot him out of the room and lock him out for a few minutes. He might get the point after being kicked out a couple of times.

4. If he still doesn't realize that his tone is unwelcome in the room, ban him temporarily, or permanently.

You may also want to let your account exec know what's been happening so that s/he can see what's happening when this member enters your room. That way, if you do end up banning the member, your account exec will be able to support you against any complaints the member might make. Quote

Another time was ( about the same subject ) that he was thinking of ending it all, he couldn't cope with the thought of it....... WHAT ON EARTH DO I SAY TO THAT????
This is an important subject raised and I have for some time been thinking to start a discussion about similar things. So I'll do it here now. Thanks for bringing this up, though it is a pretty serious situation.

[a] I know there are members who have in the past tried to end their lives. Coming here and finding the support and company of some great models have helped them keep going for a long time and find some stability in their lives. I have met both such members and performers who are caring a lot about them and I am glad that this place has some good stories like these.

[b] I have recently seen a type of member or grey popping up that I'd like to tag "preacher". Guys who come into a room and question both model and members presence and life-style, we're all gonna go to hell, etc.. While it's possible to deal with them as zyxwv098 pointed out, a story recently heard from a performer friend shocked me a bit:
- He received an offer for a show of 1 hour ... and found himself in a conversation with the aim to absolve him and convince him to quit this job etc. ...
This is pretty unchristian behaviour in my opinion.

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He received an offer for a show of 1 hour ... and found himself in a conversation with the aim to absolve him and convince him to quit this job etc. ...
This is pretty unchristian behaviour in my opinion.



I would suggest that, should this kind of situation arise again, the performer COULD spend the entire hour arguing with the member, or he could sacrifice the credits and end the show prematurely, then boot the member out. The loss of credits might be worth it, if it spares him an hour of preaching from a holier-than-thou zealot. The performer should probably also report this member to his account exec to explain the situation.

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Hey Michael,
Be upfront with this guy. Tell him what's not appropriate in your room.

If the conversation gets too heavy - tell him you’re not talking about that. Change the subject. If he starts ranting - interrupt him. Tell him that’s not cool. You’re not gonna listen to that.

When he’s out of line - tell him he’s out of line. If he continues anyway give him a choice - cool it or leave your room. You say he’s a nice guy, so it shouldn’t come to this. But, if you ask him to leave and he refuses - you can always exit him out of your room.

And if he ever talks again about suicide, geez man, tell him to get support - from family, a close friend, his doctor, or a counselor.


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Hey Michael,
Be upfront with this guy. Tell him what's not appropriate in your room.

If the conversation gets too heavy - tell him you’re not talking about that. Change the subject. If he starts ranting - interrupt him. Tell him that’s not cool. You’re not gonna listen to that.

When he’s out of line - tell him he’s out of line. If he continues anyway give him a choice - cool it or leave your room. You say he’s a nice guy, so it shouldn’t come to this. But, if you ask him to leave and he refuses - you can always exit him out of your room.

And if he ever talks again about suicide, geez man, tell him to get support - from family, a close friend, his doctor, or a counselor.


Best advice !





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[b] I have recently seen a type of member or grey popping up that I'd like to tag "preacher". Guys who come into a room and question both model and members presence and life-style, we're all gonna go to hell, etc..

Saw one of those "preachers" in one of my favorite rooms today.
I was happy to see how fast some members could pull off citations from the bible about loving each and everybody ...
I keep wondering if they'd damn women coming here to find some sort of happiness, too??
But whom am I kidding, they'd burn me at the stake, lol.

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Hey all. Bit of a random one and i hope it makes some form of sense.

So I've been getting this guy come into my room, ( he's come come a reg now ) in his 50's just starting to act on his bisexual side, he's had the first sexual experience with a guy.... YAY..... so now comes the strange parts. when ever he's in the room now he tends to lower the mood and starts to have really heavy and deep conversations.

the first one was about me asking when i was last with a woman do i want off spring some day, every guy should have off spring with a woman as its the natural way, at what age will i have off spring , think he's trying to convert me back to the other side, didn't really pay attention to my answers just went on a mini rant about it and same sex couples cant do a good job at being parents... which is crap as i know same sex parents who do a dam good job.

the second which again i didn't even get a word in was going on about his first sexual experience with a guy.... how good it was to finally try it...BUT then the massive rant came about how sick he felt afterwards about doing it with another guy, how it won't be happing again, how sick same sex is, and how we shouldn't be allowed to do it etc.... then tipped me 20 creds and thanked me for my time. Another time was ( about the same subject ) that he was thinking of ending it all, he couldn't cope with the thought of it....... WHAT ON EARTH DO I SAY TO THAT????

He was whispering which annoys me as i like open chat unless its about going priv, he keeps coming back ranting about random things, he started off being a nice guy and I'm sure he is but what am i meant to do about this??




I had a similar problem with a dude that i m not intersted in saying hes nickname,anyway , the guy was keept insisting on the fact that i should become a model on broadway clothes industring,so we kinda had this chat like about 1 hour and he keept telling me that i should come in usa and i did explain him nicely at begin that its not easy to get a visa from romania to america,not even a tourist one..so i keept answering nice while the guy did gave me all kind of silly examples of ppl that succesfull in life like justin biber, and ofc after a while of this silly chat most of ppl have left my room ...now...i did realize if someone do harm to your economy,since this is the major reason models are here,beside enjoying a coffee or a chat with couple friends...you simply have to set it away.no matter if hes intentions are good or not..if you tell him he is doing something wrong and he simply don`t get it..you have no other choice. short story, off with hes head! ))

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Hey all thanks for all the replies.
I messaged the guy in question and told him that id rather the conversations wasn't that heavy, and that he should seek local help as id rather my room be fun.
He was fine about it and apologised and said it wouldn't happen again, it was just the drink talking and he didn't like his gay side.... bit odd when he pays for shows with other guys.
Anyways he came back into the room and all was fine, talked he paid for private shows, however after a couple weeks the ranting came back and all the other comments. told him if it carried on i would ban him for my room.
Its a bit sad that i had to do that as i don't like to ban customers even when they are paying.

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Hey all thanks for all the replies.
I messaged the guy in question and told him that id rather the conversations wasn't that heavy, and that he should seek local help as id rather my room be fun.
He was fine about it and apologised and said it wouldn't happen again, it was just the drink talking and he didn't like his gay side.... bit odd when he pays for shows with other guys.
Anyways he came back into the room and all was fine, talked he paid for private shows, however after a couple weeks the ranting came back and all the other comments. told him if it carried on i would ban him for my room.
Its a bit sad that i had to do that as i don't like to ban customers even when they are paying.




King Michael while banning has to be considered the last option, sometimes it is just something you have to do. In a way have to feel sorry for the guy, but face it people should be here to have a good time and at best to full fill a fantasy. Friendships may develop, but that is all they ever will be. Hopefully you will find a solution the next time he drops by your room.
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Again...my unrequested personal opinion...
Your client is in urgent need of a psychiatrist and NOT a private.
He obviously suffers from some sort of depression besides of desperate
need of total attention...
A few years back we use to have a religious nut going around
from room to room quoting Bible verses trying to "convert" or "repent"
models and members...lolol
Eventually he was sent to HELL because he was hurting business
for this site and the models...
Been blunt and assertive works wonders: "Don't fuck
with me mate!!!...this ain't my first rodeo"....
Like very smart Sencer says:"Off with his head!!"....LMAO!
You might loose a client but regain peace and quiet and make up
for it with a productive room....

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