Preparing to Serve your Dominant:
You’ve found this article because the idea of serving a Dominant intrigues you. You adore the idea of a power-exchange relationship and want to try it out online. You’ve browsed through a few online fetish webcam sessions, and you find the idea of serving a Dominant to be incredibly enticing. You feel comfortable and liberated imaging yourself serving your very own Dominant. You want to learn more, but how does one go about learning how to serve a Dominant properly? How many different ways can a submissive serve a Dominant? How should a submissive act in servitude? For novices, the “how, what, and why” of servitude training can be intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be. In this article, we will discuss the basics of servitude training and the different ways that servitude can take place between a Dominant and submissive. We will also discuss how servitude training, when carried out properly, can strengthen the trust, respect, and loyalty between Dominant and submissive.
The Basics:
Servitude training takes place between a Dominant and submissive participating in a D/s power exchange relationship. A submissive expresses to the Dominant that they want to take their submission to the next level; they want to learn how to best serve their Dominant. Once the Dominant believes the sub is ready and has earned their way to servitude, the proper training will begin.
As a submissive offering to serve a Dominant, like other power exchange relationships, you are offering to surrender your control. In yielding your control, you are communicating to the Dominant that you trust them fully and desire to obey them in all dimensions. In servitude your desires become your Dominants desires, and thus servitude unites both Dominant and submissive in a passionate union. In servitude, your ultimate desire it to please and obey your Dominant at all times and to make their life easier. In return you receive the tender love and care of your Dominant and their emotional and physical stimulation and protection.
It’s important to note that servitude training varies amongst Dominants; each Dominant probably has their own unique preference regarding how they want to be served. Though, it’s good to prepare and practice for the type of behavior a Dominant may expect from you. Make no mistake – earning your way to the reward of servitude training from your Dominant is no quick process. You can’t just jump into servitude – proper servitude takes time to develop through evolving D/s relationship dynamics like trust, respect, communicating desires and limits, and so on. Actually serving a Dominant and learning/training to serve a Dominant are two completely different ball games.
“Successful Dominants will take time getting to know their subs inside and out before embarking through servitude training.”
Even though every Dominant trains their submissives for servitude differently, there are a few common things a submissive can prepare for in regards to the servitude-training frame of mind. Here are a few guidelines to follow when contacting your Dominant and preparing to serve them.
1). Always Mind Your P’s & Q’s
In other words, always be polite. Address your Dominant in a way that acknowledges their authority and your subservience. Begin with “hello Mistress” or “hello Master”. Always ask permission. “May I please share with you my fantasies and desires Mistress/Master?” Don’t use profanity. Don’t be rude, don’t be sarcastic. Don’t be demanding or overly probing. Be respectful. Get to the point, express your desires and don’t beat around the bush. Though, don’t be bare, be prepared to have meaningful conversation and provide mental sustenance.
2). Don’t Be Manipulative
If you’re in servitude, don’t try to manipulate the situation to your benefit. The whole point of serving your Dominant is willingly putting yourself under their control. By trying to manipulate the scene, you’re not giving yourself up completely to your Dominant. Don’t try and act bratty to manipulate your Dominant into humiliating you before you’ve gotten to know each other. Be the submissive you’ve always wanted to be.
3). Do Your Homework
In fetish webcam chat, do your homework. Read the Dominant’s profile and take note of their fetish specialties to see if you have any in common. Take note of the Dominant’s preferences and dislikes, and approach them accordingly. If you see on the Dominant’s profile that SPH is a hard limit for them, don’t approaching them seeking SPH.
4). Don’t Be Afraid to Open Up
Don’t be afraid to open up and connect with your Dominant – this process will help bolster the power exchange and make servitude training easier on the Dominant. Share with your Dominant your fetish desires, limits, fantasies, and reasons for your desire to serve. Dig deep and figure out why you want to serve your Dominant and what you want out of it. Lay all of your feelings and expectations on the table and your Dominant will do the same; this ensures the safety of both participants emotionally and physically.
Servitude on Cam:
You long to serve your Dominant, and understanding the importance of having manners, doing your homework, having pure intentions and opening up. You venture online and in fetish webcam chat you stumble upon a Dominant you adore. You are filled to the brim with the desire to serve, and you desperately want to make a good impression. What are good ways to make a positive impression and get your Dominant’s attention?
- Tipping and Tributes: One of the best and most fool-proof ways to demonstrate to your Dominant that you are serious in your intention and devotion to servitude is through a tip or tribute. Tipping is mostly straightforward; Tip your Dominant an impressive amount and express your interest in serving them; this will generally set you off on the right foot in regards to discussing servitude training and getting to know the Dominant. Tribute to their tip target or tribute by helping them rank in promotional contests like Flirt of the Year or Flirt of the Month. After tips or tributes get the attention of your Dominant, ask for permission to share with them your Fetish fantasies and desires. Start building and nurturing your fetish connections on cam, and show your Dominant that you’re worthy of servitude.
- Ask Permission for a private show to Discuss interests in Servitude and get to know each other: In fetish webcam chat, don’t try and discuss your desire to serve in open chat or without sending some kind of tip or tribute through to introduce yourself first. If you want to be taken seriously, don’t just start begging to be of service. Prove to the Dominant that you are serious; ask permission to take them into private chat for discussion. Once they’ve given you permission to take them into private chat, do so immediately without hesitation. Always have Cam2Cam ready.
- Purchase an Item from the Dominant’s Wish list: Also pretty straightforward – if your Dominant has a wish list attached to their profile, pick an item from the list and purchase it for them. Attach a note to the gift expressing your desire to share a power exchange with the Dominant and your willingness to serve. This will be a good demonstration of your willingness to serve.
Once you’ve demonstrated your willingness to serve and your Dominant has agreed to train you, there are a few different ways you can typically serve a Dominant via webcam. Every Dominant is creative and unique, but here are some general ways servitude has played out on cam:
- Servitude through Chastity.
- Financial servitude.
- Obedience; training the sub to obey simple commands.
- Impact play (spanking, flogging, paddling).
- JOI (Jerk-Off-Instruction).
- SPH (Small Penis Humiliation).
- Bondage
- Wearing certain outfits.
- Dietary restrictions.
- Anal Training, and so on.
Servitude training depends on the preferences and limits of both Dominant and submissive. Some may prefer more simple servitude training like obeying easy tasks while others may seek full-blown servitude training. Regardless of how you serve, the act of willingly serving your Dominant brings you closer to your Dominant. Through servitude training, both participants get to know one another on a deeper level; respect is reinforced through successful completion of commands, trust is fortified through understanding limits, and loyalty is constantly renewed through nurturing fetish connections. Thus, servitude training strengthens the respect, trust, loyalty between Dominant and submissive.
