Erotic Humiliation Explained
Humiliation Desires Explained:Imagine a Dominant and their submissive role-playing a CBT (Cock and Ball Torture) scenario. The Dominant and submissive have already clearly communicated their passionate desires and are now ready to begin building an extraordinary fetish experience. The submissive confides in the Dominant that he’s always been interested in erotic humiliation; it’s always something he needs to get off. This is the first chance the sub’s had to fulfill their desires with another person, thanks to finding his Dominant. He is grateful, and ready to enter subspace. The Dominant begins, humiliation ensues. But what does that mean? How can humiliation be erotic? Why would anyone seek to be humiliated? Because it can be awesome, and relaxing, and liberating. Plain yet not so simple. In this article, we are going to explore the methods of erotic humiliation and the positive ways that it impacts those who enjoy it.
Erotic Humiliation – What?Erotic humiliation is the use of psychological humiliation to achieve sexual gratification. This manifests by way of one person gaining arousal or erotic excitement from the powerful emotions resulting from humiliation. Hinging on D/s dynamics, humiliation takes place between a Dominant (or if the Dominant is a female, Humiliatrix) and a submissive. For those who have a humiliation fetish, aspects of humiliation must be involved to achieve climax. This happens either through pornography, in webcam chats, in a dungeon or in public. Taking the steps to set up guidelines and safe words for erotic humiliation should always take place before play.
“It’s important to note that erotic humiliation hinges on clear consent and concise communication; without these, erotic humiliation becomes serious abuse.”The psychological effects of erotic humiliation are enticing because they test the emotional boundaries of both Dominant and sub. Erotic humiliation can sometimes be considered edge play because it often brings one or both participants close to the edge of their limits. Using edge play can be extremely gratifying if done in a safe way that has the submissive’s best interest in mind. This is why it is extremely important for both the Dominant and submissive to discuss limits and safe words before engaging in play. Clear concise communication is the only catalyst to safe humiliation play.
How is this pleasurable?Erotic humiliation is pleasurable much the same way as impact play (spanking etc.); humiliation in general stimulates the same areas in the brain associated with pain. So it makes sense that pain, both physical and emotional, can be pleasurable since we already know certain types of pain can trigger a release of adrenaline and endorphins into the brain.
Erotic humiliation can be pleasurable and also liberating, as it can serve as a form of ego reduction. Often, but not always, subs who seek out the service of a Dominant specializing in humiliation are seeking relief from the stress of life. They seek to have the weight of the world taken off of their shoulders, to be out of control for a while. Their drug of choice is humiliation; it liberates them from their reality of responsibilities and decisions. For these subs, humiliation is like a relaxing massage; it soothes them and washes away daily stress. Combined with clear concise communication, elements of erotic humiliation can add a refreshing and liberating element to any BDSM or fetish role-play.
“Erotic Humiliation is NOT degradation.”Erotic humiliation and degradation are not the same thing, even though they are often used interchangeably in discourse. Degradation falls on the not-so-erotically-stimulating end of the humiliation spectrum, often triggering emotional responses that force a sub to use a safe word to end the scene. Humiliation is tittering on the emotions that affect a sub, and degradation is using those emotions against a sub to manipulate them. Opinion on this subject varies, but for our purposes lets settle on the idea that humiliation becomes degradation once a sub is emotionally pushed too far.
How does erotic humiliation “play out”?Erotic humiliation manifests in an infinite number of ways, much like everything else in the world of BDSM. The level of humiliation desired differs from kinkster to fetishist, but here are a few of the different ways erotic humiliation can take place:
- Addressing a Dominant as Goddess, Humiliatrix or Dom/Master could be considered humiliating, depending on the submissive. Same goes with pet names like sissy, boy, slave, baby girl and so on.
- Verbal belittlement, insults, or humiliating names like referring to the submissive as bitch, whore, slut, fat, ugly, not good enough, and so on.
- Requiring a sub to ask permission for certain things or say “thank you “after spanks.
- Servitude; making the sub perform housework, light cigarettes, cook dinner, etc.
- Sexual domination; forcing the sub to perform certain sexual acts that they might find humiliating.
- CBT and forms of bondage.
- Miro-managing of the sub’s daily life activities.
- Use of bondage, restraining a submissive which invokes vulnerability.
- Public humiliation; making the sub perform humiliating tasks in public.
- Taking away a submissive’s privacy.
- The use of chastity; preventing a sub from masturbating.
- Made to masturbate, JOI by way of the Dominant
- Cuckolding role-play or real life scenes; the submissive is made to watch while the Dominant fucks a ‘bull’ who is able to pleasure the Dominant in ways the sub cannot.
- Forced exhibitionism.
- And so on.
A successful Dominant that specializes in humiliation is imaginative, creative, and can build an exciting BDSM scenario around the submissive’s desires. A successful Dominant will learn everything they can about a submissive’s desires and limits so they can use that knowledge and construct it in a roleplay erotically in a way that gets the sub off; in a way that reduces his ego but does not damage it.
What are the benefits of erotic humiliation?Like previously stated, humiliation can liberate the submissive, freeing them from their responsibilities and stresses. Erotic humiliation can serve as a relaxing and refreshing experience for those who indulge, those who seek an unconventional release from daily pressures, however big or small. It’s like confessing your sins to a priest, or stopping at the beach to smell the fresh air; erotic humiliation washes away anxieties and brings clarity to the insecurities that might be haunting the psyche. Like the famed ‘runner’s high’ or the feeling of winning an award; in subspace during erotic belittlement the sub feels high, lifted from the unique pleasure they feel.
During an experience with such fervor, its not surprising that Dominant and sub form a remarkable bond. It takes an immense amount of trust and respect to let someone humiliate you and know that it’s coming from a place of love and care. It takes an even more impressive amount of trust and respect to receive sexual gratification from an activity that’s so controversial. Erotic humiliation improves a Dominant and sub’s quality of trust, love and respect. It also improves both participant’s communication skills. And last but not least, it provides the most exhilarating erotic experience for both parties.
Erotic Humiliation on Cam:Erotic Humiliation on cam is easily played out, because erotic humiliation does not require physical contact. Physical contact does enhance erotic humiliation but it is certainly not necessary. Erotic humiliation on cam is a great way for novices to test their limits and see how the activity makes them feel. Do they enjoy it? Does it make them happy, excited, or horny? Does it make them uncomfortable, feel vulnerable? How far are they willing to take erotic humiliation? Which online Dominant/Humiliatrix do they want to experiment with? Are they looking for more hardcore or soft-core? And so on.
“Erotic humiliation on cam is also a great way to indulge your fantasies while also staying discrete.”A lot of people have a hard time understanding and accepting that humiliation can be pleasurable, so many subs are too embarrassed to openly discuss their desires. Online humiliation webcam chat rooms and Dominant’s act as safe havens for humiliation fetishists who are afraid of ‘coming out’ about their fetish. In humiliation webcam chat, subs can discuss their desires freely and feel accepted by the community instead of fearing ridicule from their peers.
Our humiliation webcam specialists are experienced and understand that erotic humiliation is a tender process; it takes time and care to set up a proper humiliation scene. Humiliation webcam specialists walk novices through the steps of achieving subspace during erotic humiliation, assuring that the necessary precautions are discussed before engaging in play.
If the proper safety precautions are set up, erotic humiliation can be a really rejuvenating experience. It can lead to not only sexual gratification, but also sometimes spiritual liberation. Want to try it out for yourself? Browse our humiliation webcams and try role-playing with a bit of erotic humiliation. Our Certified Fetish Specialists know exactly how what you need.
